Today October 23rd marks my 9 th year WordPressing. I am so thrilled right now. Thank you WordPress for providing such an awesome platform for myself and other to have the freedom of expression and creativity.
Thanks to all my followers you are the best. Looking forward to many more. Have a great day!
Everything in life is ordered. They are seasonal, changing constantly and redesigning themselves for survival.
You and I are the same way. There’s no removing ourselves from the dynamic. We have to go with the flow, listen to our body rhythms and actually understand what it wants us to do and follow through and keep ourselves in order.
Eat balanced, consume things which will enrich your cells not hurt them. Hard lesson for us to learn until we actually have one foot in the grave. But if we keep a healthy balance and keep our bodies in motion we are going to enjoy quality of life. It’s not always perfect but it will improve significantly.
We overthink so much that sometimes we miss the essence of people, places and simple things in living. The true adventure of living, loving and exploring our very existence is missed.
Images thrown at us from media tells us what we are suppose to look like and feel. But we have to be mindful of the tricks and ground ourselves in reality. Especially if we hope to have lasting and meaningful relationships.
Sexuality is sold to us on a platter , one of tricky images which tells us we are suppose to be a certain body size or image in order to be adored, or we have to be a certain age to enjoy affection or sex.
Not so, you can be whatever and whoever, sexuality is what you make of it. I’ve even touched on it in previous posts where I explored the topic of intimacy without intercourse leading to more connection long term, rather than jumping into a physical thing which leads no where in the short term.
Ive spoken to men and women who’ve had to reinvent themselves in order to have meaningful interaction outside and inside the bedroom. Intimacy has consistently been the constant when maintaining long term relationships. Really taking time out to enjoy knowing each other rather than jumping into sex.
Women suffering from body image ranging from hair, skin, butt, breast, face, weight, you name it, it’s probably an issue for a woman you know.
Many guys talk about the inability to satisfy a woman due to the size of his penis, and comparing himself to other men based on penis size and weight of wallet., neglecting the size of his heart and weight of his love and creativity in expressing love. Some guys are conscious about body image but I see they compensate much more easily than women for various and sundry reason I won’t get into in this post.
Just understanding the complexities such that taps us into a consciousness of not allowing things out of our control to decrease our pleasure, or deter happiness, plain and simple.
I’m also not keen on delving into some of the fixes for some of our issues and problems because I feel each individual must know where they are comfortable and what is their limit. Even the professional psychiatrist or psychologist cannot help until you are ready to help yourself. By limit I mean when does the madness stop? We each have a comfort zone and we know exactly when we’ve crossed over into uncomfortable or have reach our limits. I believe we choose to ignore the warning buzzers and only realize how exaggeratory the chosen outcome is only after we’ve made the fumble. But, we live and learn. Hopefully not to keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again?
I started writing about orgasms believe it or not…but got inspired by other relevant inspirations. While orgasms are really great, they aren’t the end all fix for life. Just imagine never having one or being capable of having one again…what’s next? Exactly. Life goes on, and takes a turn for the exceptional. Exceptional you say? Yes exceptional. You become transformed and renewed. Your life now takes on new meaning. Hopefully positive, positive, positive vibrations. I can only hope and pray for your sake and the onlooking world around you.
So, When? When are we ever just going to be happy just being ourselves ? How much are we going to change of what God has created, especially when there are minor and unrecognizable issues .
Looking into the eyes of a flawed loved one and loving them even if, and just as can be a powerful aphrodisiac . Be your most relevant, renewed and inspired self.
As we mature or age, our bodies, inclusive of our organs, cells and tissues and cells renew themselves periodically and involuntary.
But there’s another type of voluntary renewal we can do day by day, week by week and year by year to, as you find yourself thinking the same thoughts, and having the same attitude.
Sometimes it is a good practice to stop, challenge ourselves to change that existing way of thinking, and doing ; no matter how good we think it may be, to a new, improved and much better way.
Change in itself is renewal because change is meant to be positive. Since change is positive then we should be renewing our minds, thoughts, actions, and behaviors.
If you want to look at renewal as a form of restoration; that’s a great step towards change. The way you wake up with a positive attitude, how about adding a little exercise to your daily routines. Smiling, saying hello to people in and out of your circle whom you generally never deliberately greet.
Creating positive energy as you awake each day, especially in the morning, Renews your minds, restores the goodness in your heart and mind and allows your blood to flow in tandem with the universe, and G’d, renewing you, your life and consequently creating a domino effect, and just like that many other lives are renewed.
Renewal is a blessing of lives interconnected by living a conscious and deliberate way of vibrancy and positivity.
Perhaps starting with my grandfather in particular
His favorite mantra to get us to wipe our plates clean was about all the starving children in Africa etc.
Now, I work out, well I walk a lot with some very light exercises in between.
But I use to do all the super aerobics, calisthenics etc. When I realized it was just all hype. Exercise is good, but the key is controlling your intake of foods.
Lessening or removing sugars and starches is key to maintenance. If you can not, then balancing your intake may be the best option.
I choose to exclude animal products from my diet as best as I can. Since I don’t cook all my meals daily I’ve found it can be challenging if I don’t have good partners to assist me in my endeavor. Case in point, I purchased a meal just yesterday and the vendor was aware I do not eat meat. I laughed when I discovered some meat in one of the portions. No biggie. They will learn slowly I guess. No need for anger nor stress.
I don’t smoke and I consume nearly no alcohol. I say nearly because from time to time, during a Blue Moon, I do partake. My food compulsions were akin to any other addictions. Some smoke use drugs, shop, sleep, use social media, sex, work. These are all things which we oftentimes do in excess. The key? Detox, fast, remove the urge and recognize your triggers.
I think of my long term health and wellbeing, how I feel now and how much better I can feel with simple lifestyle changes and choices.
I would prefer to be able to walk for exercise than do no exercise at all. Sometimes I do light calisthenics just to remind my muscles deep within that they are still alive. I am still here and challenging them to be stronger.
I enjoy my workouts because I can be present in my health choices, even if I do eat more than I should now its not because I’m being forced to anymore or tricked. I do it because I love my food choices and I know I’ll be stomping the sidewalk like a beast, shortly after.
I choose good health because I want quality of life. I want to make waking up each day worthwhile and as painless as possible to my body.
When I first wrote this I wasn’t sure of the direction I wanted to go with this piece. I was just writing, releasing energy. I shared it with one other person then stored it. Monday, my colleagues mom passed, albeit she was aged, but I felt his loss. I think everyone should feel the loss of a person regardless. Death should make us more mindful, not less. We should take some time to mourn, feel the loss and also to honor the person we’ve lost in death. They may not be able to appreciate it but it makes a difference in your heart and in the people around you. Only you can start making a difference towards positive change in this world. Be mindful.
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We get involved in relationships oftentimes not for the right reasons:
1. Feeling empathy for the other person
2. Feeling sympathy for the other person
3. Anger from a previous relationship or rebound
6. Money issues
It is important to go into relationships with your eyes wide open. The previous reasons only makes you trapped, susceptible, vulnerable, and unable to truly share your true self with another sensible person. It also allows for repeating of the same relationship mistakes.
It’s always best to have a good sit down and hash things out before jumping in. Clear the clutter or baggage, and talk as mature adults about expectations.
It may not feel romantic or feel goody, but it pays off long term. You are both happier and the pressure of being in a negatively charged relationship is now eliminated.
Women and men should be able to have friendships without sex. The expectations of sex should be removed and replaced with adult conversations, goals and expectations. The pressures and discomforts of sexual energy must be replaced with friendships.
This is the only way for relationships, especially in this day and age of bed buddies, to grow into meaningful relationships and not just ships passing each other casually in the night at bars, hotels, motels, clubs, etc.
We need to bring back meaning into relationships by being more perceptive and mindful.
I didn’t use morality because I feel it should be a natural behavior or thought. But I’ve realized over the years morality is relative to many. It isn’t, its constant. There’s good and there’s bad, no in betweens. Food for thought.
My friend Kristina wrote this very powerful, personal and interesting Post which I wanted to share with my followers. It is interesting to me that she uses the word flawed, but when I look at her I see a perfect creation by God. Those of us with hidden flaws limit ourselves in so many ways. This young lady is definitely someone to look out for , I introduce to you all my friend Kristina please give her a warm and hearty welcome and don’t forget to follow her. Thanks again have a beautiful night.
After almost thirty years on this earth, there has never been more clarity in my mind as to the woman I was created to be. In my youth, until only a few years ago; I have always strived toward the notion of being ‘normal’, or at least being viewed as ‘normal’. On my website, I […]
For many of us positive thinkers, we prefer to look at the light side of things rather than the dark side. It’s good but we also have to have a balance.
Why is that ? Where there is light, there will always be dark. Is it scary, depressing, hopeless? I would say all the above and more. But there is the balance.
Being positive, hopeful, and light, does not negate from the fact the opposite does indeed exist. It allows us to manage it with the right tool or equipment given to us.
I resisted it for many years, even the way I prayed. I was afraid to speak against the principalities, powers etc. I felt as though I would come under attack more and literally be swallowed up whole by the proverbial whale. The tools I had in prayer to wage war against adversaries were not being utilized effectively.
I was still cowering, still afraid until one day the armor was fully revealed to me in a dream. The dream wasn’t meant to be shared so I didn’t, but I certainly understood it’s intended impact in my life.
I didn’t fully realize how impacting and powerful the shield God had on my life called Jesus is . He is my light against all dark forces.
There’s is no force in this life greater than He through His Father. His armor once fully deployed is in effect to protect me spiritually. No force can harm a heart intended for God, that’s me. They can try but Jesus and His Host has my back.
Okay this is a touchy one even though it shouldn’t be. Not all men are designed with a long stick. Just the same way not all women have big butts or large breasts.
The performance of a man is based on his driving skills not the size of his gear stick. The driving skills are also dependent on his ability to listen, learn and realize the different weather patterns of his woman. He has to know her signs and respond to them. Likewise women have to understand sometimes a man simply wants to drive, and she has to accommodate him too.
I have to be honest here. I use to think it was great. Great aid sexually and all that crock. But here’s what I’ve figured out…it stops you from being you.
Follow my thoughts here. If you are a visual person like I am and you are engaged in video sex aka pornography then you may become dependent on images which are-not relatable.
Body image, the whole Shabang is wrong. Eventually you come to the realization and that’s usually 2 minutes after the video ends, your fantasy world just came to an abrupt end. So do yourself a favor and make yourself your own porn star. Be creative with it. Buy yourself sexy outfits in and out of the bedroom. Sexy shoes do not hurt even a tiny bit. Just love and adore your secret porn self.
Illusion versus reality
Which would you prefer as a real person? What are your perspectives now on multiple partners with many possibilities of risk factors versus a single partner with minimal to no risk factor?