Teachable Moments ๐Ÿ“š ๐Ÿ“– ๐Ÿ“š ๐Ÿ’ก

Lirr – my experiences with the super privileged ๐Ÿคจ๐Ÿง๐Ÿ˜ค๐Ÿคข

Iโ€™ve been riding the rail a few years. After moving to Queens, NY and suffering through long subway rides, usually an hour and forty five minutes to two hours, based on time of day, holidays or whatโ€™s happening in the city at the time.

Riding the rail has been a great relief on my body, I can spend more productive time doing other things before and after travel times. Also the time it takes me now is no more than one hour, give or take fifteen minutes – no matter what.

This has taught me I am not as patient as I use ty to be.

I usually encounter the privileged people here and there, but they usually never impact my ride the way my ride was affected yesterday and today.

Yesterday the train was packed to the brim. I was able to find a seat, thank God but the lady (well maybe not)I was preparing to sit next to had her handbag handle on the seat so I brought it to her attention

for all intents and purposes, intending NOT to be rude and just sit on her bag strap. Was she appreciative?? NO !!!! Instead she spent the ENTIRE 20 minutes squirming and fidget – felt like I was sitting next to a worm. I learned I am able to observe and not respond because a response is not necessary.

Today it was a man – not a gentleman letโ€™s get that clear. He was clearly uncomfortable with me sitting next to him. His attitude, he kept clearing his throat and I just kept on doing my writing. When the train came to a halt, I got up and out..happier than a pig in mud that I was finally away from such negativity. I learned someone elseโ€™s state of mind or being does not have to be mine.

Itโ€™s a new season as we all move into a new year. I am genuinely praying for recovery of the mind for people who feel they are better than others because of skin color. Those days are long gone but we are still dealing with many of the evil behavior or mental slavery.

I watch a video on Instagram of parents gifting their white Daughther with a black baby doll. Her response and especially the parents response was very sad to me.

I wonder what teachable moments will we observe in 2020?

This video is indicative of what is wrong with teachable moments ignored.

https://youtu.be/67bvF2kHaXQ

As I’m writing this blog the above video I was told was taken down or made private. So that’s somewhat good news but it’s still out there. Here’s another however smh

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hM5HtS_mMcc&feature=share

Happy Kwanzaa

Happy Kwanzaa | OneUnited Bank
Picture courtesy oneunitedbank

Kwanzaa is a Pan-African holiday which celebrates family, community, and culture created by Dr. Maulana Karenga in 1966 and celebrated from December 26-January 1.

 

Kwanzaa was created to introduce and reinforce seven principles as the foundation for families, relationships, parenting, education, and communities. The seven days of the Kwanzaa holiday are organized around these seven principles.

UMOJA: UNITY

(December 26)

Umoja (oo-MO-jah), the first principle, means Unity. It stresses the importance of togetherness for the family and the community, which is reflected in the African saying, โ€œI am We,โ€ or โ€œI am because We are.โ€

 

Unity means that everyone in our community is responsible for one another. This means that we must constantly look out for our family members and neighbors. It also means that we must be vigilant about protecting the rights of all oppressed people. We are all one!

KUJICHAGULIA: SELF-DETERMINATION

(December 27)

Self-determination is celebrated on the second day of Kwanzaa. Kujichagulia(koo-jee-chah-GOO-lee-ah) is to define and name ourselves, as well as to create and speak for ourselves.

UJIMA: COLLECTIVE WORK AND RESPONSIBILITY

(December 28)

Ujima (oo-GEE-mah), Collective Work and Responsibility, reminds us of our obligation to the past, present, and future, and how that will affect the role we play in the community, society, and world.

As a community, we must make our neighborsโ€™ issues our collective responsibility. By doing this, we can solve our struggles together. Each one, teach one.

UJAMAA โ€“ COLLECTIVE ECONOMICS

(December 29)

Ujama (oo-JAH-mah) teaches us to support one another and to build businesses that benefit the whole community and helps it thrive. Opportunities include WeBuyBlack and the BlackWallStreet app, which identifies Black owned businesses nationwide.

 

https://www.africanglobe.net/business/black-dollar-project-gathers-creation-black-wall-street-photo/?amp

The idea behind the #BuyBlack and #BankBlack movements is exchanging the money within the community first, providing jobs to in our community, increasing the average income, bringing more opportunity for more business endeavors and expansion and then spending that increased purchasing power in our community.

NIA: PURPOSE

(December 30)

Nia (NEE-ah) means purpose. It encourages us to look within ourselves and to set personal goals that are beneficial not only to ourselves, but also the community.

 

Recently, P Diddy held the Revolt Summit, which was decidedly hip-hop in spirit, but also featured a bevy of voter registrations tables, one-on-one โ€œOffice Hoursโ€ sessions with accomplished entrepreneurs, a job fair and an assortment of panels and work shops to both inform and empower those in attendance. According to The Root, the Summit had a purpose greater than an exaggerated concert.

To help on your quest to figure out and fulfill your lifeโ€™s purpose, your money should also have a purpose. An old saying says, โ€œMoney goes where itโ€™s treated best.โ€

KUUMBA: CREATIVITY

(December 31)

When we light the sixth candle of Kwanzaa for Kuumba (koo-OOM-bah), we celebrate how we can channel our creative energies to build and preserve a strong and vibrant community.

 

There are many artists in our community who are making a difference. They use their creative energy to dance, paint, create music and write books, blogs and columns that feed our souls with emotions and provide a vision of the world through a different lens.

IMANI: FAITH

(January 1)

Imani, or faith, focuses on honoring our best traditions. It draws upon the best things within us and helps us strive for a higher standard of life, for ourselves and for humankind.

 

Imani (ee-MAH-nee) is how we affirm our self-worth and learn to be confident that we can triumph in righteous struggles. Imani is about faithโ€“primarily faith in ourselves.

 

This Kwanzaa, letโ€™s support one another. If we build up our collective funds and strengthen ourselves and the community, we can really make a difference in our lives and our futures.

Credit – OneUnitedBank

Choices๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน

Choices

I choose the words I speak

Words have power

Itโ€™s easy to say words which hurt

It’s not easy repairing hurt

Words have power

What is your spoken word intent

Do your written words have purpose

Words have power

Positive or negative

Do you intend to treat others as you would like to be treated

Written words as well as spoken words have power

Uplift or tear down

Use your power wisely

Hasta La Vista Baby!! ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ

Invisible

I am here doing as I usually do

But somehow I am ignored

Suddenly, someone else is visible

But does that make me invisible

I donโ€™t think so…

It means I was taken for granted

You do not nor never understood my worth

Well thatโ€™s too bad honey

I do

I am not invisible, you are just blind.

And thatโ€™s all that matters in the grand scheme of things

Hasta la vista baby!!!

Calypso Music

Calypso originated on the island of Trinidad and Tobago and has become popular amongst all the other Caribbean islands, even the US Virgin Islands and British Virgin Islands.

We sometimes refer to Calypso as Kaiso and Soca, which are different styles of Calypso. Sometimes Calypso is accompanied by pan music or steel drums.

Like good wine, once you’ve gotten a taste of calypso music, you can then appreciate the lyrical play on words, the social commentaries about current events,

Even though I’m not living in Trinidad currently? Like the local Trinis I look forward to the battles of the Calypsonians, and it’s also a great way for those of us living abroad to stay ahead of de bacchanal as we call it – or current events.

Some of our popular calysonians I want to feature today are:

2019 Soca Party Mix

The link above is a sample of Calypso music. Each artist image is linked to more info on each of person.

Super Boy

Machel Montano

Mighty Sparrow

Calypso Rose

Lord Kitchener

David Rudder

Mighty Shadow

Black Stalin

Ras Shorty

Chalkdust

Sugar Aloes

I am a Trini

Habits ๐ŸŽˆ ๐ŸŽˆ ๐ŸŽˆ ๐ŸŽˆ

Itโ€™s a new month

What are some habits you would like to work on? How you think is how you’ll behave so be a better version.

Letโ€™s start with the positives

1. Love on yourself

2. Exercise/health/pray/meditate

3. Eating better

4. Spend more time with love ones

5. Savings

6. Watch less tv

7. Read more

8. Find a hobby

9. Learn a new skill

10. Go on vacation

11. Help someone in need

12. Buy yourself something youโ€™ve always wanted but will never afford yourself

13. Surprise someone with a phone call

14. Pay someoneโ€™s bill at the cashier if you see them struggling , even if it is a portion. The rewards are limitless

15. Do one or all of the things on your list for 15 days

Now letโ€™s look at the negatives you would love to eliminate, be warned you may not be aware you are doing some of this stuff:

1. Stop criticizing yourself and your God given features. They make you unique.

2. Couch potato isn’t a sexy look. Move from your desk more often during the day, keep your body in motion, you are less productive if you sit too long

3. Do you control what you eat or does the food control you?

4. You donโ€™t always have to be right nor have the last word

5. Are you consistently buying things you want or need?

6. Are you aware when you fart or burp out loud others can hear and itโ€™s bad manners

7. Social media is not education

8. Social media is not social, itโ€™s isolation

9. Apps are not being skillful

10. Virtual vacation is not real nor is looking at everyone else have fun

11. Donโ€™t be a pessimist, not everyone panhandling is a bum

12. Keeping up with the Joneses is a hobby? Really? Why?

13. Be careful with your tongue it’s more than a weapon, it’s a deadly weapon

14. Your good deeds donโ€™t have to be broadcasted or telegraphed

15. Change one or all of the things on your list for 15 days

Make a list of pros and cons unique to you and have fun with it ๐Ÿฅฐ