Black Love

The best way to celebrate love is to reinvest in yourself and your community. You will only reap what you sow.


African Beauty standards

African Beauty standards

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As Africans it has been difficult finding and especially seeing consistent, positive images of Africans in any form of media.

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If images are shown they are usually watered down to have a feature somewhat representative but never an authentic African. Usually very Eurocentric rather than Afrocentric.

Adapting to the Eurocentric

Secondly, the positive images of African women and men are downplayed, instead more negative images of gangsters, prostitutes, drug dealers and loud obnoxious people and let’s not forget the buffoons, who are typically cast via media, even within our own circles they have become acceptable as a norm unfortunately.

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The reasons it has become a norm is simple. It was made acceptable and attractive in all the entertainment venues as easy way to to make quick money, and lots of it. Comedy, TV Sitcoms , and even theatre has now become acceptable broadly by everyone.

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The stereotypes are so powerful the regular man on the street is convinced everyone african represents one or the other of the negative caricature I mentioned earlier.


Our communities are represented as violent and not good places to raise children or families. Homes are undervalued and businesses come only to take the money we spend, but they do not reinvest due to real estate value and “ghetto” looking areas.

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Our beauty standards are the same as any other community but no one wants us to magnify and raise ourselves up. When we try, we are systematically dragged back into place. This is evident every day by the shameful acts of violence against us daily by some law enforcement and even regular people on the street who would usually wear hoods and masks to do their dirty deeds, but have now become more brazen in their acts by calling the police on African persons perceived to be in an environ not “normal” for African persons like a park, the beach playing volleyball, a college campus, OR imagine this…in front of a building waiting for an Uber.

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What does all of this has to do with beauty? Well think about it. Most non Africans display themselves or depict themselves in media as angelic, beautiful, serene, soft spoken, articulate , business like etc. and they are oftentimes treated as how they are depicted, whether or not it’s who they actually are. This is very deceptive marketing.

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But no matter how an African person is cast , he nor she cannot escape the stereotypes. Not on the job, not in media, and certainly not in real life.

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So where do we go from here? We collectively have to refuse those roles which continue to stereotype us. Demand more Africans in magazines and in modeling by spending our dollars responsibly. I say we because it has to begin with us. We can’t expect anyone to do it for us. Look at us 400-500 years later. Be honest…what has changed? Where is our infrastructure? Where are our financial institution, our schools and our organizations?

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Everyone else has theirs. We do not. Everyone else seems to function well within their own sets of rules and norms but as soon as we try to do the same we get reverse racism thrown as a wrench at us.

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We get the Bible thrown at us, and we get embroiled in political shenanigans which has nothing to do with us because nothing politicians do benefits Afro communities.

Is religion used as an opium to the people or as useful means of domination for politicians? -

We can only change our outlook, including our images and beauty standard by looking within ourselves.

We have to love ourselves and each other.

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The Power of the Black Dollar 💵

The power of the black dollar.

Black consumers are the most analyzed group of people. As consumers, we spend an inordinate amount of money, even if we are poor!!! Clothing, jewelry, makeup, hair products and the biggie for me FOOD. We eat out a lot.

I don’t want to elaborate on our romance with vehicles. Too much of a sore point with me.

Okay, so now during this holiday seasons where are you investing all this money BLACK PEOPLE?

Are we going to continue on with the careless spending or are we going to consciously spend, raise the bar and help to uplift each other instead of discussing? Put your money where your mouth is. I know lots of great black businesses I can steer in your direction.

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Positive Change

You are the key

If you desire something, only you and effect the process of achieving that something.

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We tend to believe we are stuck in a place or with someone, sometimes repeated behaviors, sadly because that is what we trick ourselves into believing. We can’t see the future. We exist only in the here and now dilemma.

But, it takes one tiny step towards what may appear to be an impossibility for you to see a light, it may just be a glimmer, but if will get brighter and brighter the more you dyrp towards it.

Set daily goals to achieve so that you don’t step backwards. Even if you fall back momentarily that should be a win.

Whenever we ”fail” or fall there isusually a lesson learned that’s the win to propel you forward. Giving up is not an option.

The you in 6 months, one year, 5 years will be completely transformed.

Positive change oftentimes involves people, places and things which you have no power to change. But, you do have power over yourself.

Change yourself and the positive changes will naturally occur. Don’t be afraid to change your outlook to include people, places and things. Surprisingly they will come along once you stand your ground and implant your mission.

Either they go along or go away. Either way you keep forging forward to keep positive. Mind you, this is not about hurting others. It’s all about making a better you. Sometimes others become better too but the focus has to be you first.

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Over Eating


I am guilty yes!

Practically all my life sadly.

Perhaps starting with my grandfather in particular

His favorite mantra to get us to wipe our plates clean was about all the starving children in Africa etc.

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Now, I work out, well I walk a lot with some very light exercises in between.

But I use to do all the super aerobics, calisthenics etc. When I realized it was just all hype. Exercise is good, but the key is controlling your intake of foods.

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Lessening or removing sugars and starches is key to maintenance. If you can not, then balancing your intake may be the best option.

I choose to exclude animal products from my diet as best as I can. Since I don’t cook all my meals daily I’ve found it can be challenging if I don’t have good partners to assist me in my endeavor. Case in point, I purchased a meal just yesterday and the vendor was aware I do not eat meat. I laughed when I discovered some meat in one of the portions. No biggie. They will learn slowly I guess. No need for anger nor stress.

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I don’t smoke and I consume nearly no alcohol. I say nearly because from time to time, during a Blue Moon, I do partake. My food compulsions were akin to any other addictions. Some smoke use drugs, shop, sleep, use social media, sex, work. These are all things which we oftentimes do in excess. The key? Detox, fast, remove the urge and recognize your triggers.

I think of my long term health and wellbeing, how I feel now and how much better I can feel with simple lifestyle changes and choices.

I would prefer to be able to walk for exercise than do no exercise at all. Sometimes I do light calisthenics just to remind my muscles deep within that they are still alive. I am still here and challenging them to be stronger.

I enjoy my workouts because I can be present in my health choices, even if I do eat more than I should now its not because I’m being forced to anymore or tricked. I do it because I love my food choices and I know I’ll be stomping the sidewalk like a beast, shortly after.

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I choose good health because I want quality of life. I want to make waking up each day worthwhile and as painless as possible to my body.

Health is my gift to myself

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Speak Life

Life and death

What you decide to share with anyone is entirely up to your discretion.

Just know this, not everyone has the capacity to secure your best interest. Only you have your own best interest at heart, and very possibly a small handful of heart folks.

Experience is a great teacher, in my opinion. I’ve seen how knowledge and information either positive or negative gives people a sense of power.

What they do with that power is oftentimes the interesting thing. Gossip, inform or just learn?

I present unfortunately, too many would gossip and oftentimes wrongly inform. The elect few are mindful enough to learn and use knowledge to effect change.

Web of Destruction

There is just something about tearing down others which subconsciously or consciously gives people a feeling of empowerment? Not sure if that is the right word, but it creates a destructive turbine effects which does not stop until it kills, steals or destroys.

Your web of deception can do more harm than good

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Being mindful of people, friends, and family members…their secrets and sometimes carelessly shared information, and just information in general is important in maturity.

The power of life and death is in your hands or rather your tongue, so use it wisely and mindfully.

You do not need to tear another person down, regardless of what they’ve done to you or another. Know the forces with which you are dealing and either stay engaged or disengage. Leave it at that.

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When you build up it creates the kind of energy in this world you oftentimes can’t see immediately, but it’s there…in the smiles on faces, new beginnings, lightness in a step, giving, hope, rewards , physical wellness, emotional and psychological outlook.

Change your outlook/perspective and change your life

Everything around you looks promising and you can cope with changes. You seek to go outdoors engage more and more with real people who are experiencing life, not synthetic dreams on social media. You are unique and purposeful, therefore you live as such, and it’s not necessary to speak negativity into anything, much less another person’s life.

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Mindful Sunday


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Words of wisdom for us all to live by. To stop and ask these questions each day for the rest of our lives. Just being mindful for ourselves and others. Just think of the type of changes we can effect in this world. Happy Sunday

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