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WE ARE

Have you ever looked at

  1. Trees
  2. Mountains
  3. Nature
  4. Water

Nature

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Everything in life is ordered. They are seasonal, changing constantly and redesigning themselves for survival.

You and I are the same way. There’s no removing ourselves from the dynamic. We have to go with the flow, listen to our body rhythms and actually understand what it wants us to do and follow through and keep ourselves in order.

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Eat balanced, consume things which will enrich your cells not hurt them. Hard lesson for us to learn until we actually have one foot in the grave. But if we keep a healthy balance and keep our bodies in motion we are going to enjoy quality of life. It’s not always perfect but it will improve significantly.

We are what we eat …think about that.

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Sound Check

Ping Back

Where ever you are…whatever you may be going through. Know this..God loves you, He sees you AND He is answering your prayers.

The answers may not look the way you WANT, but dig deeper. Close your mouth and open your eyes of understanding.

When you talk less you hear more, and God’s handiwork will be more evident.

I prayerfully submit today, right now that you are awesome, wonderfully made and loved beloved.

Fear not, God has your back. Pour everything you have into His living embrace. He will keep you standing, no matter what is troubling you.

Ping back with your sound check of this message.

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Living Color

My last two weeks

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I oftentimes am amazed , fascinated intrigued about all the happenings around me that I don’t get to see, taste, smell (well let me take that back. In New York City I experience too many fragrances…jeeshhhh.🤐

So I’ll post my images in no particular date order but these are all from the last two weeks or thereabout. Most are my original photos. If you use them, please give me credit. Thankies🤗

I’ll start with myself enroute to work this morning…Happy Friday and have s great weekend.🎉🎉🎉

Sorry…this is not my original photo, but it spoke volumes to me. I’d be interested in what it says to you?

I found this little sunflower gem on my way to work this week. Thought if my neighbor Jackie. She’s an avid gardener and she grows beautiful sunflowers.

Early morning commute and this little tike had to drink a soda. I felt for her.

Labor Day meal prep. Caribbean people love their foods. This is Accra, which can generally be eaten with anything and anytime of day but many prefer it at breakfast. Typically eaten with fry bake, or johnny bake, but rice and a choka is good as well.

Homelessness in New York is disparaging. I shot this chap at the Prospect stop in Brooklyn. MTA what’s happening here?

My mom being Vogue I just did her hair😘

Again not an original pic but Trinidad and Tobago, my home country celebrated our 56th Independence August 31, 2018.

Just a kids park in Sunset Park area Brooklyn

In one of my post earlier this week I posted about the heart. I featured this young man in the hat. Don’t know him but he was very kind. Got up and gave his seat to an elderly man. So sweet.

Night shot around The Barclays Center Brooklyn

Construction workers need a shout out too. This patient lady works by the bridge on 3rd Avenue

Stinky garbage day. This is what sanitation pick up day is like in NYC – blocked roadways, lots of delays and traffic due to sanitation, delayed MTA buses and school buses and many people running late for work due to Dept of Sanitation.

Cuteness not🤕

50 followers yeahhhhhhh🔥🔥🔥🔥

Found a shoe I really liked at Payless but opted not to buy it. I don’t need another shoe, but it was so cute and practical 😍

Picture of this whale I found which captures my spirit. I love whales.

Tinks turned 6❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Not sure what this was for or about but I loved it. Found it on a family members WhatsApp profile. Tee hee.

My Tinky before heading back to school

Well I think that wraps it up. I hope you enjoy. Have a restful and enjoyable weekend. Just a final word. More to myself….peace unto you.

Happy New Year/Rosh Hashanah to my Jewish friends

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Twenty Five Minutes

Twenty Five Minutes on a bus

Kedella met handsome on her way to work one wet September morning. Her usual commute where She was crossing the highway somewhere by Eastern Parkway and Utica Avenue where she boarded the already packed bus. She said good morning to the bus driver as a courtesy every morning.

This morning was different for some reason. He looked like his life was about to be over, so Kedella asked “are you ok Handsome? You don’t seem to be your usual chippy self this morning.”

This is how she found out her bus driver of 5 years was married, had six children and about to lose his home. All she could say was take it easy and remember the Lord does not give us more than we can bear.

He admitted he needed more than that right now because he had been holding on and holding on, nothing seemed to be changing or improving. He admitted it was tiring waking up day after day, going to work, being dog tired every day, can’t even take a vacation because the hours are necessary to deal with the financial crisis in which he found himself.

Depression may affect

The silverlining? At least this kind lady, a passenger whom he had become acquainted over the last five years. She always had a smile and a kind word. She actually stopped and took notice, recognized there was something different about him on this day.

Truthfully ? He wanted to give up, but this dear lady turned things around by her unselfish act of kindness. She didn’t offer money or sex. There was absolutely zero flirting. All she offered was her time. 25 minutes from her first stop on Utica and Eastern Parkway to her final stop at Glenwood Avenue. The ride was longer this morning due to rain and traffic. But it was just nice to know in twenty five minutes a life has been transformed.

If you only imagine someone is in need of help, be the one to throw them a lifeline. Sometimes all it takes is s few minutes of your time.

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Real life Batman 34th Street to Dekalb Ave NYC Gotham

Real life Batman

34th Street to Dekalb Ave

Never witnessed anyone maneuver the MTA like this brother on a Sunday morning.

See Something Say Something

My son and I were both Brooklyn bound towards Sunset Park area. Between stations we must have seen at least 3 different passengers exchange seats across from us when we noticed a bag under the seat. This is the actual photo I took while on the train Sunday. If you zoom in under the empty seat. You’ll see it.

Our plan was to call the conductor on it but before we had a chance, one of the previous passengers zoomed in when the door opened at Dekalb, grabbed the bag and announced, “I’m a real New Yorker, the original Batman of Gotham, think I don’t know how to retrieve my s$&@?” Struck a pose and walked out the cab.

An actual shot of the cab we were in before he came back.

All in a matter of seconds. My son and I were in awe. How did he do it?? We were speculating maybe he jumped in an Uber? My son says it’s most likely he grabbed a J line and hopped on over. I don’t know. Not all that familiar with the NYC Subways.

Whatever he do, he did it super fast to beat the train he was originally on, and transferred elsewhere. Major feat in this city, plus thankfully arrive at the exact car and retrieve his bag.

That is definitely some Batman stunts right there indeed.

#Sunday

#Subway

#NYC

#Batmananimated

#34thStreet

#DekalbAvenue

#Brooklyn

#MTA

#Gotham

#Uber

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How Does Social Media fit into your world?

Social Media

I love social media!! Period!

The sheer ability to reach out to family, friends, long lost classmates, and even complete strangers who happen to share similar interests, over great distances, oceans, and even continents. I don’t know what advances have been made in space because I haven’t reviewed any NASA information. But, I will be soon since the very idea of being able to send instant message to space is revolutionary.

Negatives

While I know there are negatives- it can be time consuming, even disrupt interaction With real relationships in our lives. Some even spend so much time on social media, they have no real relationship. Others spend time filtering themselves so you really have no idea what’s real and what’s not.

Positives and Balance

But, it is important for me to highlight the positives and emphasize a balance can be met. Definitely!

Really? Yes, Really!!

I do not start my day with Social Media. That’s my biggest positive. When I open my eyes each day my praise and attention goes to my Higher Power…acknowledging and thanking God for my life, my love ones and all my blessings.

Secondly, I take care of myself, preparing myself for my day, getting chores done etc. if my chores aren’t done, I don’t reward myself with social media.

Thirdly, I take breaks from social media just to reboot, get perspective and just have me time. It may be a week or a few months. Depends how I feel. From time to time I may skip a couple days.

Lastly, social media isn’t all that important for me to disconnect from real people, real conversations and connections. I make a point to enjoy real life daily and not to have technology be all consuming . As Marshall McLuhan author of “Understanding Media” points out in the first chapter of his book :

Beyond what we think we are doing with technologies like smartphones, there is also the reality of what is happening to us when we use them. In short, what happens to us is the social message. This social “message” is also being sent to us at the same time as we use our devices for other purposes. We may not be initially aware of what is happening and how society is changing. But, over time, the social effects of the new technology seep, at least partially, into social awareness. Usually, this happens as older people point out to the younger ones how social habits have changed in their lifetime.

I’m a loner by nature who loves people. Abit of an oxymoron. But that’s my reality. I’m not a social person but I can be when called to be.

Caribguhl-VillageTalk

reference:

http://www.theimaginativeconservative.org/2016/08/social-message-social-media-christopher-morrissey.html

Social media Image taken from the imaginative conservative

McLuhan, Marshall. “Understanding Media”

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What makes us attractive to others

Have you experienced the long stares from complete strangers, or fleeting looks from passers by. We all have. Maybe it’s that beautiful glow on your face, the look of confidence in your stride, or just that spectacular outfit you decided to wear. Yes, these things are all attractive on the surface.

However, there’s more in the mortar beside the pestle. It has been my experience we cleave to those with whom we have similar likes and passions The saying goes that birds of a feather do flock together.

Science of people says “Of course, we can be physically attracted to someone, but we are more often drawn to their confidence, passion and personality. Being attractive is about more than just appearance. In fact: Attractiveness is the basis of all human relationships.”

The ones to whom we are attracted are usually people who have similar likes, dislikes, interests, routines and upbringing interestingly enough. Even people who seem polar opposites have concrete similarities. Maybe their political view point, interests in certain sporting events, it can be a myriad of interests.

Being attracted to someone does not mean you have to be sexually intimate. It is important to establish a relationship first, confirm compatibility and then discuss long term relationship. This is particularly important for women.

Attractiveness also carry the spirit of validity and worth. We all, especially women and the way we look and carry ourselves need to be validated. Validity is usually the responsibility of our parents, but fortunately we get another chance if we are wise enough to choose a life mate who really appreciates the genuine you.

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#personality

#attractiveness

#confidence

#attraction

#birdsofafeather

#image

#symbianfoundation

#sexuality

#worth

#validation

#caribguhl

#villagetalk

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No Social Media – #unplug

Sometimes that little voice in my head gives me insight.

Only God

Call it intuition, instincts, I say it’s God. Whatever your words are for it.

But sometimes you need to clear all the junk and free your mind, your thoughts and ground zero yourself do what you can to jump start or elevate your thinking.

One week social media free

A good start is social media. Try it for one week. Do something else for one week and come back and tell me how you’ve evolved. How have the actual people in your life benefitted.

#howdoyoufeel

#oneweekfreesocialmediamovement

#wisdomatwork

#nosocialmedia

#nofacebook

#notwitter

#noinstagram

#Notimelines

#nofeeds

#nolikes

#unplug

#caribguhl

#villagetalk

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There is only one me

There’s only one me

I seem to reflect on this one thought ever so often.

The first reason being, it is a fact.

There’s only one me.

Secondly, the earlier in life we begin to understand, internalize and more importantly accept this fact, so much more fall into place for us and our authenticity allows us to have peace and many things suddenly make more sense. For one, you accept all of your imperfections and you relate and communicate as you view you view yourself, as a diamond, genuine and priceless. Secondly, how others view you does not fluster you because you are you to yourself and that’s uncompromising and refreshing.

Thirdly, there is a tremendous amount of power and freedom harnessed in acceptance of oneself as you are.

Fourthly, but not the last, those around you appreciate you more because you’ve accepted yourself, are comfortable within that framework of who you are and that makes you a more enjoyable and loveable person.

After that one, genuine, authentic you…there won’t be another. The mold can only be cut once so enjoy every moment you can so you can laugh and smile at yourself with others and at the memories each day. Not the end of your days.

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How we Deal with our Pain

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Pain can be staggering if you aren’t equipped to handle it, because sometimes it isn’t just physical. It’s a mental state which can migrate to a physical state, causing much distress if you do not know how to manage how you think.

We can counter most of what how we think negatively with a positive but I’ve experienced personally such overwhelming negatives that it altered my chemical state. It could have been disastrous but I was equipped and sought help outside myself, I found ways to make my negatives positives. Small ways initially, insignificant things.

Whatever makes you happy and fires your brain use, as long as you aren’t creating more negatives for you or others.

#villagetalk

#caribguhl

Crystal

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Current Events affecting the African Communities.

DIASPORA

 

First of all, I say communities because there are so many, we are a diaspora.  We come from different places, with divergent issues.  I am from the Caribbean, but I know blacks from South America, Africa, Europe, Asia, America, etc.  We each have different issues and different perspectives.  My point of view of current events affecting the African communities is within the confines of America.

MENTAL SLAVERY

We are constantly being duped into believing we are :

  1. lazy
  2. without financial hope
  3. overly religious
  4. sports oriented and not academically inclined
  5. baby mamas and pimps
  6. incapable of thinking for ourselves, in other words we need a boss

Well, we know none of this is true.  There are exceptions of course, as with any other community of people, regardless of their ethnicity.

STEREOTYPES

These stereotypes are extremely dangerous for us as a people.  We have to be aware, educated, and conscious of what’s happening in the world around us.  We have to realize that we have just the same power, imagination, brain, and capabilities just like everyone else.  DO NOT BELIEVE THE HYPE.

ORDINARY THINGS

nothing in life can be achieved unless you put something into it.  If you are working without investing then that’s all you are doing, working.  Re-think that strategy perhaps.  Start a small investment fund, a business, even if it is home-based.    These  are a few ideas you can reap the benefits of, without burdening yourself.

Whatever religious affiliation you may have, ensure they are re-investing in your community and not taking your money elsewhere.  Look at the banks with which they are aligned.  Ask questions about where they are using the funds you’ve tithed and offered.

Education doesn’t necessarily have to be in the form of a college degree.  Read, explore, discuss, investigate, ask questions and don’t be afraid to open your mind while staying grounded to yourself and your community.  Don’t lose focus.

Demand more services for your own community, guess what?  It’s your community!  The politicians and powers that be, expect you to be silent.  Surprise them and use your voice whether that be vocally or with your pen and paper, computer, etc.  Just speak up for what you want.

SOCIAL MEDIA

Don’t let social media dissaude you from being a good citizen or person. Your life matters, make a difference and change the negativity.  We live in a world of good and bad, that’s just a fact.  Once we start changing, realigning, refocusing then the imageries on social media will also change.  We have to  remember where we came from and where we are going.  Where are you going without financial stability, credible finances and a strong foundation on which to stand.  Not just for yourself, but your future selves.

NETWORKING

This is the big N word for me.  We can’t get far if we aren’t resourced up, and in order to know where we are going, we need to follow the lead of great people. Reach out without malice to the black businesses and find out where you fit in.  Most are willing to give back but are afraid of  negativity.  They have to maneuver murky, shark infested waters, just like you and I, so let’s be tolerant and supportive.  Networking can sometimes be confusing, especially to individuals who don’t get the concept, and the long term benefits.  It’s about relationship and wealth building.  It’s not just about you now, more so than it is about you later.  Not the present you, but rather the future you – your children many generations from now.  Think about that.

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Fire on the subway MTA/LIRR

State of disgust

LIRR seats

I take the Long Island Rail Road to work mostly. I detest the putrid trains. The vagrants, the stench, the vermin, the utter sewer we pay for the privilege and honor of commuting daily.  Got on the LIRR this morning and I am thrown into a perpetual state of disgust, reminding me of the very subway trains I have tried to not use, unless I absolutely must.

What am I sitting in really????

I feel like I am about to lose my tummy. The smell is so bad in car 7367 on the 5:52 commuter from Jamaica to Atlantic that I’m sitting here wondering if I’m possibly sitting in the barf?  

Who has it worse?

Fire on MTAs tracks

When will this system ever get better?  I See people run on and off the trains at some stations, armed with brooms and shovel.  They look as disgruntled as the commuters who have to ride on the swill.  Who has it worse, the commuters or the employees?  I guess it’s equanimity but I pay to ride and I expect the trains as well as its environs to be clean, smelling decent, and not roach, rats and other vermin infested😰😰😰😰😰 UUUUUGGGGGHHHHH!!!!

NYC rats out of control
I started writing this post at 6:50 am.  It is now 6:59 pm and I’m still super irritated at the state of our mass transit system.  

Commuting back home versus commuting to work does not hold a special place for me as it should, and that disturbs me terribly.  Every experience I have, especially when I invest in it, like I do with the very expensive MTA cost, should have some level of comfort.  Bah humbug!!!!!  Why do I have to complain like a hag over something this simple?  We pay  to ride, shouldn’t they make the experience  more palatable?

Hope tomorrow brings a cleaner ride🤔. I can hope can I ?

Crystal


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Have you lived your best life today!? – 3


Communication
Some people like to talk and some to write or type. Whichever it may be, one should use it effectively for communicating true feelings, not nagging or manipulation. There is no place in relationships for either. Also never be evasive. If you don’t have an answer or are not ready to divulge one, simply say so. But,be prepared to have a ready answer available.   Never leave anyone hanging. This is just another way you live your best day by being true to yourself, yet reliable, trustworthy and earnest to others.
Purposely living

Simply living day by day without some kind of plan and purpose may seem ok in the short term. But not having real commitments and no real responsibilities, living willy nilly gets you no where.  No goals accomplished, no personal growth and nothing to look back on to appreciate.

Your day must be filled with purpose and it doesn’t hurt if you did at least one thing for yourself. Something as simple as giving yourself a day off from tasks. Just getting off your feet and resting your body, praising it for keeping you going, and please be thankful for your capabilities, what ever they may be.

Our lives must always have room for purpose and plans because without purpose there is no plans and vice versa. One cannot exist without the other. This is the beginning of your best day, taking care of you. If you don’t take care of you now it would be difficult for you to do it later.

Something  you have to consider is, who can you take care of you when you are down?   Your service to others will not be possible if you are incapacitated. So begin your best day with you.

Partners

Having a partner with whom you are committed is great but guess what?? How can you share your best self with them if you are not exercising your best self? Even your children if you have them, will suffer. You can’t love them the way you should or may want to. You can’t play with them if you are not at full capacity  when you do things with them. You are listless before the day is halfway finished. You are sleepy during the day, depressed maybe? Lost interest in some if not all activities. You are not eating nutritious meals so that your body is in balance. Next step weight gain . A big no no if you understand the human biorhythm. Weight spirals your body into another level of stress. Is this living your best day? Your best day should be balanced. Food and exercise definitely go together for a healthier you.

Balance

What does balance mean? What does balance look like? For each person it’s as unique as the person. It may mean taking a walk before you start your day. For some it may mean a jog, a swim, calisthenics, workout at your gym or if you please a great make out session with your partner. It’s entirely up to each person but you must absolutely start your best day this way. Kicking your metabolism into health zone also means balance so eating the right things, getting non sugary fluids into your temple is equally important to the balance you seek. It’s not rocket science. Your best day is elementary and easy to do if you can slow your roll and enjoy yourself . You only have one chance to take care of your body so the sooner you start, the better.
Grateful

Work and employment means something different for each person. Some people are content with salaries in the range of 25k and others need it to be 100k while others need it to be millions and that one percent in the billions. It is an individual ambition and one cannot look at the other and be critical of what satisfies monetary wise. Happiness is relative.  In order for us to live our best day  also includes enjoying the fruits of your labor and just being supremely grateful for gainful employment.

Joy and Peace

Having a hobby and enjoying doing something that lightens your heart and brings joy and peace to your spirit is essential. It doesn’t have to cost you.  Gardening, decorating, baking, cooking, hiking are things you can do with resources you already have. If you enjoy talking to friends and family this is great just be careful about too much personal information going out and also keeping conversations at a limit so you aren’t spending all your time sitting in one spot or just being a couch potato. Keep your body in tune with your mind because remember keeping your body in motion is essential to balance.
Love unique you

Loving yourself is just as potent as loving someone else. When we all realize this little secret in life we will love more passionately, hate less and respect ourselves and others. This is another aspect to our best day.

So as you can see, living your best day it isn’t one dimensional. It’s a multi dimensional purposeful life. We have to be aware and we have to strive for this each day. It cannot be well this person is like that so I’ll just be like that too. You can do much better than that. You are as unique as the sun and the moon. One comes up during the day and the other comes out at night. However, as unique as they each are, they do provide essential services we cannot live without. They are both unique and valuable. Just like you.

Begin with love in yourself, seek balance, take care of your body because you and you only have one body in this life. There aren’t any replacement part for the originals. Love like the sayings says there is no tomorrow because tomorrow may never come and finally believe in something which brings you joy to your best day.
Crystal

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Have you lived your best day today ? – 2

Hard Work

Everything we want, need and desire is attainable, but guess what ? Hard work, sleepless nights, fatigue and oftentimes self sacrifice is at the core, along with consistency, which eventually leads to the productive outcome you were seeking.
Executives speak

The Process

Understanding you cannot skip the part where hard work is a must ,and we cannot miss that process, not one step. A fortunate few get to skip the process but don’t be fooled, there are mountains to climb and obstacles to overcome when that happens. 

Above the Fray
Questions

 One must be always willing to follow the steps even when opportunities present themselves for skipping certain steps. You have to consider these interrogatives : what am I missing, and what are the lessons I’m missing when I skip a step? 

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Goals

 There is hard work where you just work like a mule but at the end of the day nothing got achieved. Then there is hard work where you outlined goals met certain criteria you established for yourself and everything worked out well. Just as you planned. This type of work is at the core of success in all things; Relationships, marriages, friendships require work and attention to small details. You take nothing for granted and you always give what you wish to receive, and more perhaps. The reward is generally directly forthcoming, and pleasantly enough sometimes indirectly forthcoming from sources you probably never imagined. Someone may be following your work on social media and admires your drive, and wishes to contribute.  I have certainly done it even recently with a young, talented person recently. A relative perhaps has seen all the hard work you dedicated to your project and decides to reward you with a gift of money, time, maybe a free office space for 6-11 months. I am just saying, anything is possible. 

Smart Goals
Support

 Sometimes just thoughts and support from friends and family is enough to spark that extra push to do more or perhaps to keep those creative juices flowing. Just hang in there and make it a great day by living each day as your best day.

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Love and best day today 

Crystal