Change

If you don’t know it yet, I pretty much embrace this concept of change regardless of what it brings with it. You are probably wondering what!?

Here’s the thing, in order for us to get to the positives, we must overcome the negatives, learn and never repeat it. Another way to not repeat it is to teach others. Growth does not come without ups and downs, or ins and owns.

So why not? Especially when you get an opportunity to learn something new. The pain allows you to sharpen your skills and emerge a better version of yourself .

Don’t misunderstand my “annoyance’” as resistance to change. Change is inevitable, and brings about evolution…while resisting or embracing.

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The Power of your Tongue

How to affect change

I was listening to a YouTube and a Podcast where a particular celebrity was being maligned. It occurred to me, with all the more important issues in our community, why not expend positive energy with issues rather than individuals?;

1. Deliberate Poverty

2. Targeted abuses

3. Healthcare

4. Community And Economic Development

5. Improving Black Image in Media

6. Black victimhood for political advantage

7. Religion

8. Improving relations

There are a few celebrities who I completely abhorred regarding their public persona. Fortunately overtime they changed that paradigm and lived up to the potential I knew was within them.

I won’t name names but one has totally transform like a butterfly, the other is still in a cocoon stage.

Like us, celebrities are made of flesh and bone and I’ve learned I can’t allow their behavior to overly concern me. As parents and guardians we should not allow the next generation access if we do not agree with specific behaviors from celebrities or anyone for that matter. There is something quick and easy called turning off the radio and television. I have more control when I am mindful to use my power. I would like to exhort others to do the same rather than maligning another person’s character – deserving or not. We all have the power to change, just like the chrysalis transforms to a beautiful butterfly, people can change, but we shouldn’t further malign them just because we can, because social media gives us the power to do so. Be mindful, think ahead and put yourself in the other persons shoe. Be the change you wish to see in the world.

The Power of your Tongue

How to affect change

I was listening to a YouTube and a Podcast where a particular celebrity was being maligned. It occurred to me, with all the more important issues in our community, why not expend positive energy with issues rather than individuals?;

1. Deliberate Poverty

2. Targeted abuses

3. Healthcare

4. Community And Economic Development

5. Improving Black Image in Media

6. Black victimhood for political advantage

7. Religion

8. Improving relations

There are a few celebrities who I completely abhorred regarding their public persona. Fortunately overtime they changed that paradigm and lived up to the potential I knew was within them.

I won’t name names but one has totally transform like a butterfly, the other is still in a cocoon stage.

Like us, celebrities are made of flesh and bone and I’ve learned I can’t allow their behavior to overly concern me. As parents and guardians we should not allow the next generation access if we do not agree with specific behaviors from celebrities or anyone for that matter. There is something quick and easy called turning off the radio and television. I have more control when I am mindful to use my power. I would like to exhort others to do the same rather than maligning another person’s character – deserving or not. We all have the power to change, just like the chrysalis transforms to a beautiful butterfly, people can change, but we shouldn’t further malign them just because we can, because social media gives us the power to do so. Be mindful, think ahead and put yourself in the other persons shoe. Be the change you wish to see in the world.

New Chapter

New chapter

Loopism

I was disconnected abruptly today from my source of inspiration where I’ve worked for some years. He resigned.

Muse

Words cannot describe how saddened and surprised i am to find out my Muse will no longer be coming in each morning as he usually did, quietly, introspectively with a low good morning then head down in his computer for hours on end – unless he came up for a smoke break when he remembered.

Tips to be consistently

He was the person who mentored me in his own way. I don’t think he realized how much I looked to him for calm and grounding through moments of tension and chaos. He always had the answers some how and oftentimes he knew i knew the answer but he would allow me to vent then he will say resignedly “”I don’t know what the answer”” but I’m sure you are going to figure it out because that’s why we all get paid here, we figure things out!

My first couple days working I was thrown into duties and responsibilities rather quickly with no training or initiation system. The office was very small back then but everyone was closeknit.

Culture of learning

His assistance in maneuvering the system, internal and external relationships, and his giving generously of his time was appreciated. Now we are much bigger and people aren’t connected anymore.

Teamwork

My muse and go to person has moved on, now everyone says…well that’s how things are!! Why do I feel such a vacuum?

Feels like there is no hope

So as I pondered why and I realize when things happen suddenly…without reasons you are not aware or aren’t in the loop, causing the element of surprise and sometimes displacement…this should be normal too if you have had valid human connections.

It’s ok to feel hopelessness, loss and any range of emotions, and to deal with it in a positive way to motivate yourself inward while celebrating the past. It’s like mourning. You can’t deny the loss but you can and should certainly deal with your emotions and the physical loss of someone near and dear to you.

5 stages of grief

The involuntary changes are propelling me to a new chapter of necessary change and action on my behalf which will require conscious deliberation and then a voluntary reaction for a greater good. Thus begins a great new chapter.

Wishes for the future

Be good to yourselves

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Renewal

Renewal

As we mature or age, our bodies, inclusive of our organs, cells and tissues and cells renew themselves periodically and involuntary.

But there’s another type of voluntary renewal we can do day by day, week by week and year by year to, as you find yourself thinking the same thoughts, and having the same attitude.

Sometimes it is a good practice to stop, challenge ourselves to change that existing way of thinking, and doing ; no matter how good we think it may be, to a new, improved and much better way.

Change in itself is renewal because change is meant to be positive. Since change is positive then we should be renewing our minds, thoughts, actions, and behaviors.

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If you want to look at renewal as a form of restoration; that’s a great step towards change. The way you wake up with a positive attitude, how about adding a little exercise to your daily routines. Smiling, saying hello to people in and out of your circle whom you generally never deliberately greet.

Creating positive energy as you awake each day, especially in the morning, Renews your minds, restores the goodness in your heart and mind and allows your blood to flow in tandem with the universe, and G’d, renewing you, your life and consequently creating a domino effect, and just like that many other lives are renewed.

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Renewal is a blessing of lives interconnected by living a conscious and deliberate way of vibrancy and positivity.

Crystal

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Mature Audience

Perception

We get involved in relationships oftentimes not for the right reasons:

1. Feeling empathy for the other person

2. Feeling sympathy for the other person

3. Anger from a previous relationship or rebound

4. Loneliness

5. Depression

6. Money issues

7. Abuse

It is important to go into relationships with your eyes wide open. The previous reasons only makes you trapped, susceptible, vulnerable, and unable to truly share your true self with another sensible person. It also allows for repeating of the same relationship mistakes.

It’s always best to have a good sit down and hash things out before jumping in. Clear the clutter or baggage, and talk as mature adults about expectations.

It may not feel romantic or feel goody, but it pays off long term. You are both happier and the pressure of being in a negatively charged relationship is now eliminated.

Women and men should be able to have friendships without sex. The expectations of sex should be removed and replaced with adult conversations, goals and expectations. The pressures and discomforts of sexual energy must be replaced with friendships.

This is the only way for relationships, especially in this day and age of bed buddies, to grow into meaningful relationships and not just ships passing each other casually in the night at bars, hotels, motels, clubs, etc.

We need to bring back meaning into relationships by being more perceptive and mindful.

I didn’t use morality because I feel it should be a natural behavior or thought. But I’ve realized over the years morality is relative to many. It isn’t, its constant. There’s good and there’s bad, no in betweens. Food for thought.