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New Chapter

New chapter


I was disconnected abruptly today from my source of inspiration where I’ve worked for some years. He resigned.


Words cannot describe how saddened and surprised i am to find out my Muse will no longer be coming in each morning as he usually did, quietly, introspectively with a low good morning then head down in his computer for hours on end – unless he came up for a smoke break when he remembered.

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He was the person who mentored me in his own way. I don’t think he realized how much I looked to him for calm and grounding through moments of tension and chaos. He always had the answers some how and oftentimes he knew i knew the answer but he would allow me to vent then he will say resignedly “”I don’t know what the answer”” but I’m sure you are going to figure it out because that’s why we all get paid here, we figure things out!

My first couple days working I was thrown into duties and responsibilities rather quickly with no training or initiation system. The office was very small back then but everyone was closeknit.

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His assistance in maneuvering the system, internal and external relationships, and his giving generously of his time was appreciated. Now we are much bigger and people aren’t connected anymore.


My muse and go to person has moved on, now everyone says…well that’s how things are!! Why do I feel such a vacuum?

Feels like there is no hope

So as I pondered why and I realize when things happen suddenly…without reasons you are not aware or aren’t in the loop, causing the element of surprise and sometimes displacement…this should be normal too if you have had valid human connections.

It’s ok to feel hopelessness, loss and any range of emotions, and to deal with it in a positive way to motivate yourself inward while celebrating the past. It’s like mourning. You can’t deny the loss but you can and should certainly deal with your emotions and the physical loss of someone near and dear to you.

5 stages of grief

The involuntary changes are propelling me to a new chapter of necessary change and action on my behalf which will require conscious deliberation and then a voluntary reaction for a greater good. Thus begins a great new chapter.

Wishes for the future

Be good to yourselves

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As we mature or age, our bodies, inclusive of our organs, cells and tissues and cells renew themselves periodically and involuntary.

But there’s another type of voluntary renewal we can do day by day, week by week and year by year to, as you find yourself thinking the same thoughts, and having the same attitude.

Sometimes it is a good practice to stop, challenge ourselves to change that existing way of thinking, and doing ; no matter how good we think it may be, to a new, improved and much better way.

Change in itself is renewal because change is meant to be positive. Since change is positive then we should be renewing our minds, thoughts, actions, and behaviors.

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If you want to look at renewal as a form of restoration; that’s a great step towards change. The way you wake up with a positive attitude, how about adding a little exercise to your daily routines. Smiling, saying hello to people in and out of your circle whom you generally never deliberately greet.

Creating positive energy as you awake each day, especially in the morning, Renews your minds, restores the goodness in your heart and mind and allows your blood to flow in tandem with the universe, and G’d, renewing you, your life and consequently creating a domino effect, and just like that many other lives are renewed.

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Renewal is a blessing of lives interconnected by living a conscious and deliberate way of vibrancy and positivity.


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Only You

Only You


When I first wrote this I wasn’t sure of the direction I wanted to go with this piece. I was just writing, releasing energy. I shared it with one other person then stored it. Monday, my colleagues mom passed, albeit she was aged, but I felt his loss. I think everyone should feel the loss of a person regardless. Death should make us more mindful, not less. We should take some time to mourn, feel the loss and also to honor the person we’ve lost in death. They may not be able to appreciate it but it makes a difference in your heart and in the people around you. Only you can start making a difference towards positive change in this world. Be mindful.

Everyone needs you

No one wants you

Only you

Great beginnings

Everyone wants you

Nobody needs you

Only you

Only you

Know what you want

Can define what you need

Only you

Only you can need and want you

Only you can Make it a great dayπŸ€—

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Mature Audience


We get involved in relationships oftentimes not for the right reasons:

1. Feeling empathy for the other person

2. Feeling sympathy for the other person

3. Anger from a previous relationship or rebound

4. Loneliness

5. Depression

6. Money issues

7. Abuse

It is important to go into relationships with your eyes wide open. The previous reasons only makes you trapped, susceptible, vulnerable, and unable to truly share your true self with another sensible person. It also allows for repeating of the same relationship mistakes.

It’s always best to have a good sit down and hash things out before jumping in. Clear the clutter or baggage, and talk as mature adults about expectations.

It may not feel romantic or feel goody, but it pays off long term. You are both happier and the pressure of being in a negatively charged relationship is now eliminated.

Women and men should be able to have friendships without sex. The expectations of sex should be removed and replaced with adult conversations, goals and expectations. The pressures and discomforts of sexual energy must be replaced with friendships.

This is the only way for relationships, especially in this day and age of bed buddies, to grow into meaningful relationships and not just ships passing each other casually in the night at bars, hotels, motels, clubs, etc.

We need to bring back meaning into relationships by being more perceptive and mindful.

I didn’t use morality because I feel it should be a natural behavior or thought. But I’ve realized over the years morality is relative to many. It isn’t, its constant. There’s good and there’s bad, no in betweens. Food for thought.

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Have you ever looked at

  1. Trees
  2. Mountains
  3. Nature
  4. Water


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Everything in life is ordered. They are seasonal, changing constantly and redesigning themselves for survival.

You and I are the same way. There’s no removing ourselves from the dynamic. We have to go with the flow, listen to our body rhythms and actually understand what it wants us to do and follow through and keep ourselves in order.

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Eat balanced, consume things which will enrich your cells not hurt them. Hard lesson for us to learn until we actually have one foot in the grave. But if we keep a healthy balance and keep our bodies in motion we are going to enjoy quality of life. It’s not always perfect but it will improve significantly.

We are what we eat …think about that.

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Fighting Back

Fighting Back

It does not have to be public

You are different…

It does not have to be a brawl

Your difference makes you great…

Loud screaming not necessary…

You can be heard…

Fight back with quiet intentions

Do you and do it right

Be happy with who you are

Where you are and aspire to achieve those dreams

Fight back




Meet those goals

Be Strong

Never Give Up

It all fights back for you

Enjoy beautiful texture of you
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Who Are You anonymous (WAYA)

Taking stock of who you are

your purpose and the plans you may have for further improvements, or a complete overhaul may take some work and is oftentimes collaborative.


You first need to take stock. This involves interrogators you can do yourself to first see who you are.

β€’Are you a good example?

β€’Why do you say you are or are nota good example ?

β€’For Whom are you a good example?

β€’Do you exemplify good or bad behaviors generally and or purposefully ?

β€’What are your motives for the things you do?

Making mistakes can oftentimes be cyclical if we are not careful to examine the reasons why we continue to make the same ones.

Finding the factors which trigger us to repeat prior wrongs or mistake is a priority if we hope to correct behaviors going forward.

Also getting a handle on our thinking before the triggers happen can help.:

Emotions trigger behavior

Are you sad, mad, angry, depressed? Who are the people, where are the places, and what are the things which elicit the emotions and then trigger certain behaviors.

Now take the steps backwards and direct your emotion in the direction you would like it to go, but first take steps away from the triggers- people, places and things until you have better control

Do you tolerate inappropriate behaviors in other. Taking into consideration you can only control yourself.

Affirm what you wish to exemplify

Is it your policy and affirmation I will not exemplify bad behavior nor tolerate it.

Based on how you’ve assessed your thinking, not necessarily your behavior. This is who you are.

Happy seeking and finding of yourself.

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It’s Up To You – yes you!


We are spiritually connected with everything in the universe. It’s what makes us human. Naturally our physical presence here is felt but sometimes not experienced.

Sometimes we are more intimately interconnected or in tune, than others. Nothing taboo, just natural.

Newton’s Law

Realize everything thing you do and say has a repercussion, negative or positive. If we applied Isaac Newton’s law of physics to our lives and not just science or as an experimental existence:

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

We can employ the two forces of this principle to propel us to give out to the universe what we want back, and thereby enjoy a more mindful and peaceful world, or destructive and disturbing one.

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Caring & Sharing goes hand in hand

Create a caring and sharing world by your own words and deeds, and make this world great again.

It’s up to you.

it’s up to me!

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Celebrating Mister Rogers

Celebrating Mister Rogers
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Iwish more people in the world were as mindful as Mr. Rogers. Period!

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I overheard a conversation where a comment was made about someone saying something, actually it was a speech given on a public podium, which someone else was not in agreement.

It got me thinking about opinions and why it is so difficult for us to respect differences of opinions, differences in anything.


We live in such a big wide world of people, places and things with so many nuances that it is incredible to me that anyone would be in total agreement with any one thought or opinion. It’s just not a natural thing unless you are an ostrich.

The big but for me is respect…plain and simple. Learning to meet others in their opinions and agree, disagree, agree to disagree – respectfully.

We have a huge responsibility to ourselves and the next generation to practice tolerance, patience and respect towards each other. The world will be a tremendously better place for it.


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