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My Black is Beautiful

I appreciate myself everyday

What does that entail?

Taking care of myself wholly





No one can do it better than you

Your Black is Beautiful

Better believe it!



Affirmations, Attitude, Goals, Purposely Living, success

Be Stil But Be INSPIRED – Do Not Lose Hope!!


You can lose a job, a lost one, money, possessions but do not lose hope. If plan A does not work, amend it then reach that goal NO MATTER WHAT!

See you at the finish line



Procrastination, living life to the fullest, don't wait until tomorrow do it today, Purposely Living

Now or Later…

Nice text, very beautiful, very true ….! My friend Casey shared it with me today 1.22.19 – author Unknown



Hardly the day started and … it is already six o’clock in the evening.

Barely arrived on Monday and it’s already Friday.

… and the month is already over.

… and the year is almost up.

… and already 40, 50 or 60 years of our lives have passed.

… and we realize that we lost our parents, friends.

and we realize that it is too late to go back …

So … Let’s try, however, to take full advantage of the time we have left …

Let’s not stop looking for activities that we like …

Let’s put color in our greyness …

Let’s smile at the little things in life that put balm in our hearts.

And yet, we must continue to enjoy serenely the time that remains. Let’s try to eliminate the “after” …

I do it after …

I will say after …

I will think about it after …

We leave everything for ‘later’ as if “after” was ours.

Because what we do not understand is that:

after, the coffee cools …

after, priorities change …

after, the charm is broken …

after, health passes …

after, the children grow up …

after, the parents get older …

after, the promises are forgotten …

after, the day becomes the night …

after, life ends …

And after that it’s often too late ….

So … leave nothing for ‘later’ …

Because always waiting for later, we can lose the best moments,

the best experiences,

the best friends,

the best family …

The day is today … The moment is now …

We are no longer at the age where we can afford to postpone until tomorrow what needs to be done right away.

So let’s see if you’ll have time to read this message and then share it.

Or maybe you’ll leave it for … “later” …

And you will not share it “ever” ….

Even share with those who are not yet “seniors”.


Enjoy today. Don’t want for tomorrow

Aunt’ Birthday, Happy Birthday, Purposely Living, special person

Happy Birthday Aunty Joy 1.9.19

Happy Birthday Aunty Joy

We are more like sisters than aunt and niece but you’ve always been that person I look up to because I know your heart is always in the right place.

I can always remember you coming to my aid when we were children. My brothers and I always reminisce and lovingly about how overprotective you were of us. That’s just you 100% and I know today you are fiercely overprotective of your own children. They are fortunate to have you as their momma.

There’s no guessing with you what’s on your mind. It shows on your face 🤣 and in your eyes. This is a rare thing today since most people wear masks of deception, thus taking away their authenticity unfortunately.

You are unpretentious, precious, always open to learning while keeping things balanced, and you are SO full of humor. I don’t know another like you dear Aunt.

I love you dearly and I wish God’s truest fulfillment of his plan and purpose for you and yours.

I celebrate you with prays and thanksgiving. May the heavens rejoice today as we celebrate and love you today 1.9.19 on your special day. God bless you pressed down and overflowing.


Attainable Goals, Happy New Year, Influencer

Happy New Year 2019

Start the new year right!

  1. Be Thankful

2. Eat well

3. Keep your body in motion

Walk Boston

4. Enjoy the company of those you love. We are only here once❤️

5. Be Respectful

6. Honor your word and if you can’t be honest

7. Be mindful

8. Spend wisely

9. Enjoy Life

Dance like no one is watching

10. Rest your body as well as your mind

Happy New Year, Influencer

We are almost there

A brand New Year is almost upon us and I am hoping, praying for balance, wisdom, strength, consistency, love, patience, kindness Respect and mindfulness for myself and everyone in 2019 and onward.

May your journey be easy.

Influencer, kindness movement, mindfulness, say no to bullies, violence is not the answer

I am not the one

I am not the one

Why is it do difficult for humankind to just be kind? I’m really baffled and at loss for words 😢

Someone recently sent me a most disturbing video of a very young man being lashed on his bare buttocks quite severely by a group of men.

I am not the one to send this type of nonsense. I don’t subscribe to anyone taking it upon themselves to be law enforcers…apparently the young man had stolen something.

I would have lived to poll the ones beating him. It seems they have cast the stone of guilt and are guiltless themselves.

I am not the one as this type of behavior is bullying in my opinion. What about this young man’s young and fragile life made them strip him of all his clothes, expose his face and his private parts to include the giant welts on his buttocks as they shipped him, to social media ?

What if they someone decided to be judge, jury and enforcer to you or someone you love? What then?

A few years ago someone else found out….i am not the one after they sent me a video of people burning a man alive in a remote place somewhere for a crime of some sort…

I do know this!!! but I am not God. Do not take human life and mistreatment into my own hands NOR. Do I take it lightly when others do it. So please know this..I AM NOT THE ONE please do not share such atrocities with me.

2019, holidays, Influencer, musings, reflections

Giving your Best…holiday musing

I’m readying myself for year end 2018. I usually go through the motions of cleaning. Cleaning everything. I start the process about 6 months prior so now I’m in the end game and trying to finalize all my loose ends to start my new year with certain goals attained.

what echoes most as I reflect is giving. Not just monetarily but of myself, my time, my love and attention. Giving the best of me is love. It doesn’t have to diminish me, rather it enhances me.

It’s sometimes scary but I embrace even the challenges because I usually emerge stronger and yield more fruit for pushing through the tough spots.

So as you each end 2018 and walk into a new year 2019. I wish you all the very best in your challenges and your victories. May your 2019 be happy, healthy, loving , cheerful and Eventful, and giving …as you give yourself as well as others your very best.

Live your best lives today and don’t wait for tomorrow.

Influencer, significance



We are oftentimes misunderstood, more so than dads, grandparents and sibings. Our sacrifices go unheard and unseen.

We are responsible for many things and many people. We take nothing for granted when it comes to our loved ones.

Balancing the cheque book oftentimes and keeping the household running on impossible budgets.

Discipline-we are generally the default bad guy, and we are no fun. That’s what we hear a lot of anyway.

We are no longer attractive to our spouses or significant other when we lose ourselves in life. We run to work, run home, prepare meals, do homework, laundry, chores, bathe, sleep, get up and repeat. We start looking like what we promised ourselves we won’t – tired, worn and unpleasant. Even to ourselves.

We don’t know what a date looks like anymore, much less movie night or romance. There’s no time and especially trusted caretakers to watch our special bundles of joy, when we do look for a date night let alone a weekend? Fuggetaboutit!!!!

Time teaches us valuable lessons about value and worth- for ourselves. When we start loooking after ourselves and finding time for those little things we get the guilt trips.

But we learn quickly, that too shall pass as we go on with the business of taking care of ourselves and being the example for our children to model.

If you don’t care for yourself and play as hard as you work, no one else does it for you.

So mom I love you and Happy Birthday to you this day November 15th, 2018.

May God bless you and keep you always. Thank you for always trying and thank you for being the model I wish to exemplify.


Your one and only daughter


Differences, Influencer, Peace and Harmony, Prayers for America, respect, Tolerance

Heartfelt Sympathy Synagogue Shooting

Pittsburgh, PA

I’m always saddened by senseless violence. When people are targeted for religious, political, or anything else for that matter, it should not be tolerated by anyone in society.

I pray this great country a covering of peace, love and God’s grace for us all, no matter our creed, or race.

Sadly the examples readily portrayed in media is perpetuating a visual reminder of hate, and intolerance. This is symptomatic of a greater Ill in society.

In order to love our brothers and sisters, we must love ourselves. If we cannot reconcile love within our individual selves, it would be most difficult to extend love to anyone else.

Let us prayer for this great country’s Healing, and peaceful reconciliation of differences.

Peace to us all🙏🏽

Attitude, Influencer, Love, Maturity, Purposely Living

Mature audience – O

Mature audience – O

We overthink so much that sometimes we miss the essence of people, places and simple things in living. The true adventure of living, loving and exploring our very existence is missed.

Images thrown at us from media tells us what we are suppose to look like and feel. But we have to be mindful of the tricks and ground ourselves in reality. Especially if we hope to have lasting and meaningful relationships.

Be present and relate
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Sexuality is sold to us on a platter , one of tricky images which tells us we are suppose to be a certain body size or image in order to be adored, or we have to be a certain age to enjoy affection or sex.

Not so, you can be whatever and whoever, sexuality is what you make of it. I’ve even touched on it in previous posts where I explored the topic of intimacy without intercourse leading to more connection long term, rather than jumping into a physical thing which leads no where in the short term.

Ive spoken to men and women who’ve had to reinvent themselves in order to have meaningful interaction outside and inside the bedroom. Intimacy has consistently been the constant when maintaining long term relationships. Really taking time out to enjoy knowing each other rather than jumping into sex.

Women suffering from body image ranging from hair, skin, butt, breast, face, weight, you name it, it’s probably an issue for a woman you know.

Many guys talk about the inability to satisfy a woman due to the size of his penis, and comparing himself to other men based on penis size and weight of wallet., neglecting the size of his heart and weight of his love and creativity in expressing love. Some guys are conscious about body image but I see they compensate much more easily than women for various and sundry reason I won’t get into in this post.

Just understanding the complexities such that taps us into a consciousness of not allowing things out of our control to decrease our pleasure, or deter happiness, plain and simple.

Be happy. Reinvent yourself and have fun
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I’m also not keen on delving into some of the fixes for some of our issues and problems because I feel each individual must know where they are comfortable and what is their limit. Even the professional psychiatrist or psychologist cannot help until you are ready to help yourself. By limit I mean when does the madness stop? We each have a comfort zone and we know exactly when we’ve crossed over into uncomfortable or have reach our limits. I believe we choose to ignore the warning buzzers and only realize how exaggeratory the chosen outcome is only after we’ve made the fumble. But, we live and learn. Hopefully not to keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again?

Hey to happiness?  Enjoy being you.
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I started writing about orgasms believe it or not…but got inspired by other relevant inspirations. While orgasms are really great, they aren’t the end all fix for life. Just imagine never having one or being capable of having one again…what’s next? Exactly. Life goes on, and takes a turn for the exceptional. Exceptional you say? Yes exceptional. You become transformed and renewed. Your life now takes on new meaning. Hopefully positive, positive, positive vibrations. I can only hope and pray for your sake and the onlooking world around you.

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So, When? When are we ever just going to be happy just being ourselves ? How much are we going to change of what God has created, especially when there are minor and unrecognizable issues .

Looking into the eyes of a flawed loved one and loving them even if, and just as can be a powerful aphrodisiac . Be your most relevant, renewed and inspired self.

Influencer, mindfulness, philosophical concept, Purposely Living, relationships

Only You

Only You


When I first wrote this I wasn’t sure of the direction I wanted to go with this piece. I was just writing, releasing energy. I shared it with one other person then stored it. Monday, my colleagues mom passed, albeit she was aged, but I felt his loss. I think everyone should feel the loss of a person regardless. Death should make us more mindful, not less. We should take some time to mourn, feel the loss and also to honor the person we’ve lost in death. They may not be able to appreciate it but it makes a difference in your heart and in the people around you. Only you can start making a difference towards positive change in this world. Be mindful.

Everyone needs you

No one wants you

Only you

Great beginnings

Everyone wants you

Nobody needs you

Only you

Only you

Know what you want

Can define what you need

Only you

Only you can need and want you

Only you can Make it a great day🤗

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Mature Audience


We get involved in relationships oftentimes not for the right reasons:

1. Feeling empathy for the other person

2. Feeling sympathy for the other person

3. Anger from a previous relationship or rebound

4. Loneliness

5. Depression

6. Money issues

7. Abuse

It is important to go into relationships with your eyes wide open. The previous reasons only makes you trapped, susceptible, vulnerable, and unable to truly share your true self with another sensible person. It also allows for repeating of the same relationship mistakes.

It’s always best to have a good sit down and hash things out before jumping in. Clear the clutter or baggage, and talk as mature adults about expectations.

It may not feel romantic or feel goody, but it pays off long term. You are both happier and the pressure of being in a negatively charged relationship is now eliminated.

Women and men should be able to have friendships without sex. The expectations of sex should be removed and replaced with adult conversations, goals and expectations. The pressures and discomforts of sexual energy must be replaced with friendships.

This is the only way for relationships, especially in this day and age of bed buddies, to grow into meaningful relationships and not just ships passing each other casually in the night at bars, hotels, motels, clubs, etc.

We need to bring back meaning into relationships by being more perceptive and mindful.

I didn’t use morality because I feel it should be a natural behavior or thought. But I’ve realized over the years morality is relative to many. It isn’t, its constant. There’s good and there’s bad, no in betweens. Food for thought.