Attitude, balance, Purposely Living, significance, using silence to restore balance

Silence is restorative

I’ve found this to be a very powerful truth.

I can talk and talk and find no healing, nor resolution, but as soon as I shut my mouth, open my mind and keep my heart reasonable ( mind you, I didn’t say … pure because honestly who has a pure heart? Let’s be real).

Good against evil

We try to be as pure as we can by balancing good against evil, and that’s the best place to be in the balance where you are trying. I am scared to death of the extremes. They both create chaos in this world.

I am writing to release the tension I’ve accumulated over the last several day. Tough and heightened tensions I don’t usually experience, especially Seems like I’ve not been able to find simple solutions to any one problem I’m currently addressing. Saving grace is my positive perseverance and attitude.

So I find the positive my immersing myself into complete silence sometimes for hours. No radio, music, other voices, magazines, books, and my computer or phone.

I seek answers in silence along with peace for my own wellbeing. Without my peace I am not myself so I seek restorative silence.

Crystal

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Happy Birthday Aunty Joy 1.9.19

Happy Birthday Aunty Joy

We are more like sisters than aunt and niece but you’ve always been that person I look up to because I know your heart is always in the right place.

I can always remember you coming to my aid when we were children. My brothers and I always reminisce and lovingly about how overprotective you were of us. That’s just you 100% and I know today you are fiercely overprotective of your own children. They are fortunate to have you as their momma.

There’s no guessing with you what’s on your mind. It shows on your face 🤣 and in your eyes. This is a rare thing today since most people wear masks of deception, thus taking away their authenticity unfortunately.

You are unpretentious, precious, always open to learning while keeping things balanced, and you are SO full of humor. I don’t know another like you dear Aunt.

I love you dearly and I wish God’s truest fulfillment of his plan and purpose for you and yours.

I celebrate you with prays and thanksgiving. May the heavens rejoice today as we celebrate and love you today 1.9.19 on your special day. God bless you pressed down and overflowing.

Crystal

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Good Vibes

Positive Living takes conscious effort

I am big on positive thinking , even in the midst of not so positive situations. I don’t just say positive things, I exemplify it in my day to day. That’s just my philosophical approach to living.

Half full

I much rather see a cup as half full than half empty. It is deliberate and extremely beneficial to me holistically.

Thank you

Thank you to my 200 Followers. I truly appreciate each and every one of you and wanted you to know I don’t take your likes and follows for granted. I do my best to follow up, respond, comment on each person. If I do not – it’s still a work in progress and I am striving on doing much better.

Every like is an experience because it comes from a person with a real life, a real personality, with interesting blogs and contributions, and not a made up profile. I value you and deem you worthy. Thank you once again.

All the best to you and I pray 2019 is much better than any other year previously. May God’s favor be ever upon you hereafter.

Happy Old Year!

Happy New Year!

Good vibes and continue writing from your heart.

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Good Vibes

Positive Living takes conscious effort

I am big on positive thinking , even in the midst of not so positive situations. I don’t just say positive things, I exemplify it in my day to day. That’s just my philosophical approach to living.

Half full

I much rather see a cup as half full than half empty. It is deliberate and extremely beneficial to me holistically.

Thank you

Thank you to my 200 Followers. I truly appreciate each and every one of you and wanted you to know I don’t take your likes and follows for granted. I do my best to follow up, respond, comment on each person. If I do not – it’s still a work in progress and I am striving on doing much better.

Every like is an experience because it comes from a person with a real life, a real personality, with interesting blogs and contributions, and not a made up profile. I value you and deem you worthy. Thank you once again.

All the best to you and I pray 2019 is much better than any other year previously. May God’s favor be ever upon you hereafter.

Happy Old Year!

Happy New Year!

Good vibes and continue writing from your heart.

Affirmations, Attitude, happiness, Influencer, self talk, Sustainable Happiness, Worthy

Sustainable Happiness

Sustainable Happiness

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I’m in the subway 12.28.18 6:48 am looking at this poster about sustainable happiness and my brain is all over. What’s that?

The ad talks about jobs come and go physical beauty fades, market rise and fall. Even close relationships can end but the benefits of philosophy last a lifetime. This is all part of philosophyworks.org

I can agree with all of this and add that sustainable happiness is about finding ways to manage something. What is that something? Your worth!

So what is sustainable happiness but worth in your self!

If you don’t find worth in yourself you are doomed to making the same mistakes over and over again. You have to VALUE yourself against all the issues.

What mama or papa may or may not have said, the negativities imposed on you as a child or teenager or even as an adult you have to turn it off and say enough is enough.

You are enough and you are worthy

This morning 12:48 am. I come across this video by Tyler Perry on Joel Osteen’s on IG

Tyler Perry on Joel Osteen – Aim for Worthy

Analyze what worthy means. Look at yourself in the mirror. Make faces if you must. I do. Sleep, eat, rest and keep your temple healthy and enjoy me time. Enjoy the company of others on your time and find the things you enjoy. Not what anyone defines for you.

What you talking about ?

TAKE A CHILL PILL OF WORTHY. DO YOURSELF THAT FAVOR. LOVE YOU TODAY !!!

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We are almost there

A brand New Year is almost upon us and I am hoping, praying for balance, wisdom, strength, consistency, love, patience, kindness Respect and mindfulness for myself and everyone in 2019 and onward.

May your journey be easy.

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African Beauty standards

African Beauty standards

Edits Elba by David Simon Times 100
Challe Brownes blog
Samuel Jackson
Avionne Mark Ms. Trinidad & Tobago 2012 Ms. Universe
Bachelor Montano Hot 97.1
As Africans it has been difficult finding and especially seeing consistent, positive images of Africans in any form of media.
Black Madonna & Child Pinterest

If images are shown they are usually watered down to have a feature somewhat representative but never an authentic African. Usually very Eurocentric rather than Afrocentric.

Adapting to the Eurocentric

Secondly, the positive images of African women and men are downplayed, instead more negative images of gangsters, prostitutes, drug dealers and loud obnoxious people and let’s not forget the buffoons, who are typically cast via media, even within our own circles they have become acceptable as a norm unfortunately.

Beautiful African woman in turban

Christi African Man

The reasons it has become a norm is simple. It was made acceptable and attractive in all the entertainment venues as easy way to to make quick money, and lots of it. Comedy, TV Sitcoms , and even theatre has now become acceptable broadly by everyone.

Lorenzo Knight African Woman

The stereotypes are so powerful the regular man on the street is convinced everyone african represents one or the other of the negative caricature I mentioned earlier.

Blackish

Our communities are represented as violent and not good places to raise children or families. Homes are undervalued and businesses come only to take the money we spend, but they do not reinvest due to real estate value and “ghetto” looking areas.

Black Wall Street

Our beauty standards are the same as any other community but no one wants us to magnify and raise ourselves up. When we try, we are systematically dragged back into place. This is evident every day by the shameful acts of violence against us daily by some law enforcement and even regular people on the street who would usually wear hoods and masks to do their dirty deeds, but have now become more brazen in their acts by calling the police on African persons perceived to be in an environ not “normal” for African persons like a park, the beach playing volleyball, a college campus, OR imagine this…in front of a building waiting for an Uber.

Beaching while black

What does all of this has to do with beauty? Well think about it. Most non Africans display themselves or depict themselves in media as angelic, beautiful, serene, soft spoken, articulate , business like etc. and they are oftentimes treated as how they are depicted, whether or not it’s who they actually are. This is very deceptive marketing.

Blacks and whites see racism very differently CNN.com

But no matter how an African person is cast , he nor she cannot escape the stereotypes. Not on the job, not in media, and certainly not in real life.

Raquel Gates

So where do we go from here? We collectively have to refuse those roles which continue to stereotype us. Demand more Africans in magazines and in modeling by spending our dollars responsibly. I say we because it has to begin with us. We can’t expect anyone to do it for us. Look at us 400-500 years later. Be honest…what has changed? Where is our infrastructure? Where are our financial institution, our schools and our organizations?

African American history

Everyone else has theirs. We do not. Everyone else seems to function well within their own sets of rules and norms but as soon as we try to do the same we get reverse racism thrown as a wrench at us.

Affirmative Action

We get the Bible thrown at us, and we get embroiled in political shenanigans which has nothing to do with us because nothing politicians do benefits Afro communities.

Is religion used as an opium to the people or as useful means of domination for politicians? - Agnostic.com

We can only change our outlook, including our images and beauty standard by looking within ourselves.

We have to love ourselves and each other.

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Mature audience – O

Mature audience – O

We overthink so much that sometimes we miss the essence of people, places and simple things in living. The true adventure of living, loving and exploring our very existence is missed.

Images thrown at us from media tells us what we are suppose to look like and feel. But we have to be mindful of the tricks and ground ourselves in reality. Especially if we hope to have lasting and meaningful relationships.

Be present and relate
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Sexuality is sold to us on a platter , one of tricky images which tells us we are suppose to be a certain body size or image in order to be adored, or we have to be a certain age to enjoy affection or sex.

Not so, you can be whatever and whoever, sexuality is what you make of it. I’ve even touched on it in previous posts where I explored the topic of intimacy without intercourse leading to more connection long term, rather than jumping into a physical thing which leads no where in the short term.

Ive spoken to men and women who’ve had to reinvent themselves in order to have meaningful interaction outside and inside the bedroom. Intimacy has consistently been the constant when maintaining long term relationships. Really taking time out to enjoy knowing each other rather than jumping into sex.

Women suffering from body image ranging from hair, skin, butt, breast, face, weight, you name it, it’s probably an issue for a woman you know.

Many guys talk about the inability to satisfy a woman due to the size of his penis, and comparing himself to other men based on penis size and weight of wallet., neglecting the size of his heart and weight of his love and creativity in expressing love. Some guys are conscious about body image but I see they compensate much more easily than women for various and sundry reason I won’t get into in this post.

Just understanding the complexities such that taps us into a consciousness of not allowing things out of our control to decrease our pleasure, or deter happiness, plain and simple.

Be happy. Reinvent yourself and have fun
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I’m also not keen on delving into some of the fixes for some of our issues and problems because I feel each individual must know where they are comfortable and what is their limit. Even the professional psychiatrist or psychologist cannot help until you are ready to help yourself. By limit I mean when does the madness stop? We each have a comfort zone and we know exactly when we’ve crossed over into uncomfortable or have reach our limits. I believe we choose to ignore the warning buzzers and only realize how exaggeratory the chosen outcome is only after we’ve made the fumble. But, we live and learn. Hopefully not to keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again?

Hey to happiness?  Enjoy being you.
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I started writing about orgasms believe it or not…but got inspired by other relevant inspirations. While orgasms are really great, they aren’t the end all fix for life. Just imagine never having one or being capable of having one again…what’s next? Exactly. Life goes on, and takes a turn for the exceptional. Exceptional you say? Yes exceptional. You become transformed and renewed. Your life now takes on new meaning. Hopefully positive, positive, positive vibrations. I can only hope and pray for your sake and the onlooking world around you.

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So, When? When are we ever just going to be happy just being ourselves ? How much are we going to change of what God has created, especially when there are minor and unrecognizable issues .

Looking into the eyes of a flawed loved one and loving them even if, and just as can be a powerful aphrodisiac . Be your most relevant, renewed and inspired self.

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Renewal

Renewal

As we mature or age, our bodies, inclusive of our organs, cells and tissues and cells renew themselves periodically and involuntary.

But there’s another type of voluntary renewal we can do day by day, week by week and year by year to, as you find yourself thinking the same thoughts, and having the same attitude.

Sometimes it is a good practice to stop, challenge ourselves to change that existing way of thinking, and doing ; no matter how good we think it may be, to a new, improved and much better way.

Change in itself is renewal because change is meant to be positive. Since change is positive then we should be renewing our minds, thoughts, actions, and behaviors.

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If you want to look at renewal as a form of restoration; that’s a great step towards change. The way you wake up with a positive attitude, how about adding a little exercise to your daily routines. Smiling, saying hello to people in and out of your circle whom you generally never deliberately greet.

Creating positive energy as you awake each day, especially in the morning, Renews your minds, restores the goodness in your heart and mind and allows your blood to flow in tandem with the universe, and G’d, renewing you, your life and consequently creating a domino effect, and just like that many other lives are renewed.

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Renewal is a blessing of lives interconnected by living a conscious and deliberate way of vibrancy and positivity.

Crystal

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Only You

Only You

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When I first wrote this I wasn’t sure of the direction I wanted to go with this piece. I was just writing, releasing energy. I shared it with one other person then stored it. Monday, my colleagues mom passed, albeit she was aged, but I felt his loss. I think everyone should feel the loss of a person regardless. Death should make us more mindful, not less. We should take some time to mourn, feel the loss and also to honor the person we’ve lost in death. They may not be able to appreciate it but it makes a difference in your heart and in the people around you. Only you can start making a difference towards positive change in this world. Be mindful.

Everyone needs you

No one wants you

Only you

Great beginnings

Everyone wants you

Nobody needs you

Only you

Only you

Know what you want

Can define what you need

Only you

Only you can need and want you

Only you can Make it a great day🤗

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Once upon an Insecure Girl – Introduction — Kristina – Once upon a Beautifully Flawed Girl

My friend Kristina wrote this very powerful, personal and interesting Post which I wanted to share with my followers.  It is interesting to me that she uses the word flawed, but when I look at her I see a perfect creation by God.  Those of us with hidden flaws limit ourselves in so many ways. This young lady is definitely someone to look out for ,  I introduce to you all my friend Kristina  please give her a warm and hearty welcome and don’t forget to follow her.  Thanks again  have a beautiful night.

Crystal

After almost thirty years on this earth, there has never been more clarity in my mind as to the woman I was created to be. In my youth, until only a few years ago; I have always strived toward the notion of being ‘normal’, or at least being viewed as ‘normal’. On my website, I […]

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Fighting Back

Fighting Back

It does not have to be public

You are different…

It does not have to be a brawl

Your difference makes you great…

Loud screaming not necessary…

You can be heard…

Fight back with quiet intentions

Do you and do it right

Be happy with who you are

Where you are and aspire to achieve those dreams

Fight back

Quiet

Intentional

Discreet

Meet those goals

Be Strong

Never Give Up

It all fights back for you

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I Am Black Every Day

Black History Month

My history goes beyond one month

Black history is not an oxymoron

Every day images bombards me and promotes images of worth and love

Where are the black images, why are we the only ones who are relenting against

the images that do not represent who we are as a people

Why are we repressed and downpressed so…

I use the energy of denial to empower and enrich

Ase

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History is important. If you don’t know history it is as if you were born yesterday. And if you were born yesterday, anybody up there in a position of power can tell you anything, and you have no way of checking up on it. Howard Zinn

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The Village I look at young, black, girls in the Brooklyn, New York neighborhoods.  Many are struggling due to lack of finances, poor self-image and poor academic performance.   It is so important firstly for parents or guardians to recognize what the particular needs are, then address them systematically in order for a positive change to take place. I remember growing up and hearing the slogan, we learn what we live.  This is so true.  Women are the guardians of the community, even though men are the cornerstone.  So, why shouldn’t we help the women to become better guardians, rather than mediocre guardians.  We have to bring together the older women to teach the younger ones.  I know Iyanla Vanzant had a special she did with some sisters and it really moved me because she introduced the council of older women, and I thought this to be most effective.  It’s also what we lack.  It’s what our young women lack. Self-Image A positive self-image is so important.  But, in our community of black people it can sometimes be like a needle in a hay stack.  There are so many images out there which affects our children.  I focus on the girls especially, but this does not diminish what happens to our male children.   There is the image of skin complexion, the image of thin vs. thick, the image of black vs. white.   So, we have to decide where we stand in all this noise of images.

Steve Biko
Steve Biko

I believe once a child is made to feel beautiful, none of these images should matter, but it depends on each individual.   Empowering oneself is important, and it begins with how we see ourselves. Academics Academics is so important because you can use academics to define yourself, to strengthen who you are and stand strong.   It does not work for everyone, but I believe a good, solid education makes us better people generally.