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Happy New Year 2019

Start the new year right!

  1. Be Thankful

2. Eat well

3. Keep your body in motion

Walk Boston

4. Enjoy the company of those you love. We are only here onceโค๏ธ

5. Be Respectful

6. Honor your word and if you can’t be honest

7. Be mindful

8. Spend wisely

9. Enjoy Life

Dance like no one is watching

10. Rest your body as well as your mind

Happy New Year, Influencer

We are almost there

A brand New Year is almost upon us and I am hoping, praying for balance, wisdom, strength, consistency, love, patience, kindness Respect and mindfulness for myself and everyone in 2019 and onward.

May your journey be easy.

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I am not the one

I am not the one

Why is it do difficult for humankind to just be kind? I’m really baffled and at loss for words ๐Ÿ˜ข

Someone recently sent me a most disturbing video of a very young man being lashed on his bare buttocks quite severely by a group of men.

I am not the one to send this type of nonsense. I don’t subscribe to anyone taking it upon themselves to be law enforcers…apparently the young man had stolen something.

I would have lived to poll the ones beating him. It seems they have cast the stone of guilt and are guiltless themselves.

I am not the one as this type of behavior is bullying in my opinion. What about this young man’s young and fragile life made them strip him of all his clothes, expose his face and his private parts to include the giant welts on his buttocks as they shipped him, to social media ?

What if they someone decided to be judge, jury and enforcer to you or someone you love? What then?

A few years ago someone else found out….i am not the one after they sent me a video of people burning a man alive in a remote place somewhere for a crime of some sort…

I do know this!!! but I am not God. Do not take human life and mistreatment into my own hands NOR. Do I take it lightly when others do it. So please know this..I AM NOT THE ONE please do not share such atrocities with me.

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Celebrate with me

I celebrate you too

Today October 23rd marks my 9 th year WordPressing. I am so thrilled right now. Thank you WordPress for providing such an awesome platform for myself and other to have the freedom of expression and creativity.

Thanks to all my followers you are the best. Looking forward to many more. Have a great day!

Peace and love

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Only You

Only You


When I first wrote this I wasn’t sure of the direction I wanted to go with this piece. I was just writing, releasing energy. I shared it with one other person then stored it. Monday, my colleagues mom passed, albeit she was aged, but I felt his loss. I think everyone should feel the loss of a person regardless. Death should make us more mindful, not less. We should take some time to mourn, feel the loss and also to honor the person we’ve lost in death. They may not be able to appreciate it but it makes a difference in your heart and in the people around you. Only you can start making a difference towards positive change in this world. Be mindful.

Everyone needs you

No one wants you

Only you

Great beginnings

Everyone wants you

Nobody needs you

Only you

Only you

Know what you want

Can define what you need

Only you

Only you can need and want you

Only you can Make it a great day๐Ÿค—

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Mature Audience


We get involved in relationships oftentimes not for the right reasons:

1. Feeling empathy for the other person

2. Feeling sympathy for the other person

3. Anger from a previous relationship or rebound

4. Loneliness

5. Depression

6. Money issues

7. Abuse

It is important to go into relationships with your eyes wide open. The previous reasons only makes you trapped, susceptible, vulnerable, and unable to truly share your true self with another sensible person. It also allows for repeating of the same relationship mistakes.

Itโ€™s always best to have a good sit down and hash things out before jumping in. Clear the clutter or baggage, and talk as mature adults about expectations.

It may not feel romantic or feel goody, but it pays off long term. You are both happier and the pressure of being in a negatively charged relationship is now eliminated.

Women and men should be able to have friendships without sex. The expectations of sex should be removed and replaced with adult conversations, goals and expectations. The pressures and discomforts of sexual energy must be replaced with friendships.

This is the only way for relationships, especially in this day and age of bed buddies, to grow into meaningful relationships and not just ships passing each other casually in the night at bars, hotels, motels, clubs, etc.

We need to bring back meaning into relationships by being more perceptive and mindful.

I didnโ€™t use morality because I feel it should be a natural behavior or thought. But Iโ€™ve realized over the years morality is relative to many. It isnโ€™t, its constant. Thereโ€™s good and thereโ€™s bad, no in betweens. Food for thought.

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Fighting Back

Fighting Back

It does not have to be public

You are different…

It does not have to be a brawl

Your difference makes you great…

Loud screaming not necessary…

You can be heard…

Fight back with quiet intentions

Do you and do it right

Be happy with who you are

Where you are and aspire to achieve those dreams

Fight back




Meet those goals

Be Strong

Never Give Up

It all fights back for you

Enjoy beautiful texture of you
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Friendships at the Well

If you are a heart person this will make sense๐Ÿ’ฏ

You thrive on mindfulness๐Ÿ‘

Being careful with your choice of words and never doing harm๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ

When we call someone “friend”, it’s for life and we mean it.

Friends come in different sizes, shapes and color
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Different temperaments, conversations, outlook, does not mean pushing limits, offending if you disagree. It merely means you can agree to disagree. No arguments, no angst or feelings hurt.

There’s an old adage which says:


So many of us forget what it means to be a friend indeed. Instead you see these posters flying around social media:

What is this hocus pocus?
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I dare say I’m not a friend if it’s a reason or season. So scratch me off that list. Obviously you are ready to find a reason, not-available during particular seasons so why worry about lifetime attachments?

I think this is overused and misused, and not appropriately applied even in the biblical sense of yoking yourself.

Jesus took it to another level in terms of meeting people at the well, and by the way…the well never ran dry. That’s the kind of friend he was.

What will Jesus Do?
Are you a friend to the Samaritans, widows, orphans or prostitutes

I contend, that you think seriously about the people who are in your life and make quite certain you are a friend indeed, not just for a convenient reason, or seasonal because you can use them like that – or they are so desperate for an anchor, they allow you to use them like that.

Friendships are like gems..priceless. Guard them well and do not abuse them. Your differences of opinions are just egos.

Forgive and make amends
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This goes for spouses as well. Sometimes it’s okay to let go of an argument and let that friend/spouse win.

Itโ€™s ok
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It’s okay, you do not always need to be right nor have the last say. It’s says a lot about you, when you let things roll of your back. Give the wheel to Jesus and just be a friend/spouse indeed.

I read another blog I recently came across, last evening. It was so interesting. The author describes going to work and part of his ritual was to take extra money with him and give to the needy. He explained how one particular chap would look forward to seeing him, and he would even bring him food on occasion, gifts on his birthday / get this – for three years. It brought tears to my eyes.

I live here in NYC and while I give yes, I’ve had opportunity to do more in one particular situation and I backed out because I felt the person was trying a fast one.

I don’t know, maybe yes maybe no, the point is did it matter? As long as I did it with a willing heart.

Life lessons
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That willingness is what God uses to change the hearts of people you and I cannot discern. I know many think they are discerning , myself including, but the human mind and heart is complex and much is hidden from us that only God sees.

So I’ll finish my tirade…the well of friends you do have try, to make good to ensure you bring them into fellowship by being a good example of friendship. Not just to bring them to church. But be there for the complications, the quiet moments when they need to not speak but need someone present.

Help save lives on earth and souls for heaven,.

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Celebrating Mister Rogers

Celebrating Mister Rogers
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Iwish more people in the world were as mindful as Mr. Rogers. Period!

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I overheard a conversation where a comment was made about someone saying something, actually it was a speech given on a public podium, which someone else was not in agreement.

It got me thinking about opinions and why it is so difficult for us to respect differences of opinions, differences in anything.


We live in such a big wide world of people, places and things with so many nuances that it is incredible to me that anyone would be in total agreement with any one thought or opinion. Itโ€™s just not a natural thing unless you are an ostrich.

The big but for me is respect…plain and simple. Learning to meet others in their opinions and agree, disagree, agree to disagree – respectfully.

We have a huge responsibility to ourselves and the next generation to practice tolerance, patience and respect towards each other. The world will be a tremendously better place for it.


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